Size: Real Woman

The Undefeated
Jan 18, 2017
3 min read

Warning: When people judge other people I lose it a little and curse sometimes. I'm not perfect but at least I'm letting you know.

I’ve been seeing this everywhere. In all the magazines, depending on whatever group they’re trying to enrage they’ll talk about size 0’s telling size 20’s that they’re too big and they need to go on a diet or that the 20’s are saying to the 0’s that they’re anorexic and need to go eat a cheeseburger.

What a load of shit.

Now I get that there’s a lot of hurt feelings on both sides of this, but come on.

Growing up, throughout adolescence, and now I feel judged and have been bullied for being big.

The size 0’s were always the pretty girls and I was always rejected and ignored for not being like the rest.

And then there's this:

There’s this nasty stereotype that because someone is beautiful

their life is perfect or they are perfect and an asshole.

It’s really easy to just believe that and believe me, as a woman often not accepted as beautiful I’ve caught myself judging people who fit the typical parameters of beauty.

I even caught myself thinking that because a good friend of mine is beautiful and a jock he must be dumb. Served me right when he whooped me in words with friends.

Also it should be noted that this friend is also a firefighter and one of the kindest human beings ever.

Just because someone is drastically different from you doesn’t mean you need to be defensive about their differences that make them beautiful.

0’s you need to stop telling 20’s that they are fat, making fun of their weight, .

20’s you need to stop placing bets on whether or not a 0 is bulimic, anorexic, or just “lucky”.

The truth is that we all struggle. We struggle to become whatever media says is beautiful.

These days everywhere I look I see companies, brands, and people talking about how we need to open our minds to different ideas and perspectives.

Well I dare you to open your mind to this one:

A real woman isn’t measured by her cup size or waistline.

A real woman doesn’t measure herself against any other woman.

(Come on Hilary, everyone compares themselves to other people. Yes I know this reader. We all do it. What I mean here is that a real woman doesn’t require of every woman she meets to be at all like her. A real woman desires diversity in life.)

Growth doesn’t take place when we’re comfortable. The best friendships are the ones I didn’t see coming. How are we gonna meet these powerhouse women if we keep judging each other?

We have to learn to forgive each other for our unfair comparisons.

We can’t keep demonizing the spectrum of body fat.

Size 20’s are beautiful.

Size 16’s are beautiful.

Size 10’s are beautiful.

Size 6’s are beautiful.

Size 0’s are beautiful.

Size 00’s are beautiful.

A girl with an A cup is just as beautiful as a girl with DD’s.

We have to stop allowing ourselves, as women, to measure each other’s value by our ratios of bust:waist:hip.

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